Don't forget to be kind

[MadDoc]

I've seen some threads on this forum decompose into insults and shouting matches.  We all have opinions, perspectives, experiences, and information we've obtained from various sources.  If someone posts something you don't agree with, pisses you off,  or seems like misinformation, please reply in a constructive and courteous manner.  Before you post, think about what you might say if you were talking to the person face to face, and don't forget to be kind.  We're all struggling with a difficult disorder.  Remember, we all have the goal of being well.  Let's help each other get there.

Thank you.

Edited April 15, 2018 by MadDoc
More foolish typing

[Jay1]

Very good post. We need to pull in the same direction and help each other. Polite counter points are fine, but why does it have to quickly resort to swearing and anger? 

[LethargicAcid]

agreed. I'm posting some cures soon

[LethargicAcid]

Quick cure: take 2-3 valerian root supplement tablets with a little shot of coffee and green tea. Then sit back; lay back on your bed then relax 

[dayum_son]

I'm pretty sure green tea makes my hppd slightly worse. Will try again.

Looks like every person is affected differently.

[LethargicAcid]

also meds work for a lot of people but can make worse 

[Spartan]

On 4/15/2018 at 8:28 AM, MadDoc said:

I've seen some threads on this forum decompose into insults and shouting matches.  We all have opinions, perspectives, experiences, and information we've obtained from various sources.  If someone posts something you don't agree with, pisses you off,  or seems like misinformation, please reply in a constructive and courteous manner.  Before you post, think about what you might say if you were talking to the person face to face, and don't forget to be kind.  We're all struggling with a difficult disorder.  Remember, we all have the goal of being well.  Let's help each other get there.

Thank you.

I really like this .. it's cool to be kind and empathetic. To hold space in difficult turbulent times. 

None of us here are Neuro Physchsitrists and the like.. so it's best to remain respectful, non judgemental and to not make assumptions relating to people's conditions or past experiences etc. 

Sometimes people just need to be herd and not analysed. Although constructive supportive support is always welcomed. This is a support forum right. 

 Peace to All. Thankyou 

 

 

[Spartan]

On 11/21/2024 at 9:56 PM, Spartan said:

I really like this .. it's cool to be kind and empathetic. To hold space for each other  in difficult turbulent times. 

None of us here are Neuro Physchsitrists and the like..(tho some of us may know a shit load more lol) so it's best to remain respectful, non judgemental and to not make assumptions relating to people's conditions or past experiences etc. 

Sometimes people just need to be herd and not analysed. Although constructive supportive support is always welcomed. This is a support forum right. 

 

 

 

Edited November 23, 2024 by Spartan

[brake]

Yeah right listen if we had any fallout please ignore my posts from now on lol

[Spartan]

Um this is strange.. I was experiencing an acute crisis.. 

We are talking slitting wrists with razor blades. 

You offered support to me via what's app.. from this forum.

I accepted.. 

Then once on what's app all you did was bombard me and spam me with messages on topics related to anything other than support. I.E.  Links to  ABC hppd suicide documentary etc etc etc etc etc etc really appropriate... not. 

I blocked you for the need to protect my own boundaries and mental health. 

If your fucking with someone's head space when they are In a serious condition or making fun of it (as you seem to be doing now) 

Likley that's a good indication to block altogether. Although im not sure if that is possible on this website ?  @Jay1

I'm all for being empathetic, kind and supportive though one thing I do not have time, attention or tolerance for is toxicity. 

Edited November 23, 2024 by Spartan

[Jay1]

If you hover over the user's profile pic, you can then click "Ignore". i think that block's the user's posts, DMs etc?

[Spartan]

14 minutes ago, Jay1 said:

If you hover over the user's profile pic, you can then click "Ignore". i think that block's the user's posts, DMs etc?

Many thanks 

[brake]

8 hours ago, Spartan said:

Um this is strange.. I was experiencing an acute crisis.. 

We are talking slitting wrists with razor blades. 

You offered support to me via what's app.. from this forum.

I accepted.. 

Then once on what's app all you did was bombard me and spam me with messages on topics related to anything other than support. I.E.  Links to  ABC hppd suicide documentary etc etc etc etc etc etc really appropriate... not. 

I blocked you for the need to protect my own boundaries and mental health. 

If your fucking with someone's head space when they are In a serious condition or making fun of it (as you seem to be doing now) 

Likley that's a good indication to block altogether. Although im not sure if that is possible on this website ?  @Jay1

I'm all for being empathetic, kind and supportive though one thing I do not have time, attention or tolerance for is toxicity. 

I don't know what you are talking about dude 

[brake]

I thought we would all be like united and like work to find treatments and cures. I was happy and excited to talk with and meet with people who had the same rare disorder but that was also a disappointment. I also can't find the ignore user button. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion though.

Edited November 23, 2024 by brake

[Jay1]

Hopefully was just a misunderstanding between you guys. Let's try to move forward together (or ignore each other )

[Spartan]

On 11/23/2024 at 9:21 PM, brake said:

I thought we would all be like united and like work to find treatments and cures. I was happy and excited to talk with and meet with people who had the same rare disorder but that was also a disappointment. I also can't find the ignore user button. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion though.

Umm what do you think I / we have been doing for the past decade + ?

I was the one person who initiated the Macquarie Protocol through Professor who reached out internationally for collaboration. 

Besides some of us are so severely impaired that they are unable to "work" to find cures being patients. 

It is good and exiting to connect with individuals with hppd yes tho I believe hppd 2 is a spectrum and each persons condition in unique to them and not everyone experiences the "same". I'm not implying I'm worse off or better if than everyone else. 

Listen. I'm sure we all have light and dark qualities or shadow aspects. 

I did not like to intentionally disappoint or hurt your feelings through blocking you. Though as I clearly explained to you I was enduring the most challenging week of my entire life. (Something I cannot talk about now). I just could not take it at the time. I hope you can understand this and due to this fact not take it personally. 

 At the end of the day we are all human. If you feel it would be beneficial we can try for a fresh start and maturely cohabitate.. or we can just ignore each other for all eternity lol

I may have over emphasized the toxicity thing as I am hyper vigalent at present due to recently being done over  by a complete narcissistic psychopath. 

The ignore button for not seem to work for me either lol 

If you knew the circumstances likley we would have more understanding, 

Anyhow....

@Jay1 maybe you can facilitate some kind of conflict resolution or mediation if you feel that is the way forward? 

 

 

 

 

Edited November 25, 2024 by Spartan

[yarkadin]

I think it's very important for us with this disorder to be laser focused on our medical problems and not political or religious or personal or cultural topics, despite how important and critical (and even defining and foundational) some of those are to us.  I am also of the mindset lately where I have absolutely no time or interest in explaining my personal positions to someone, which is why I will be ignoring all such irrelevant conversation moving forward.  If I accidentally get dragged into something of that nature, which can certainly happen as I'm human and prone to goofing and lapsing into insignificance as anyone else, I'd politely ask the person on the receiving end to remind me of what I said with a virtual slap on the face

What I appreciate about hppdonline is that we can collaborate together without personal attacks and most importantly despite our personal differences.  This is the most important thing of all.  It's what unites us together here.

Edited November 25, 2024 by yarkadin

[brake]

I thought we could be friends naturally without any problems but whatever it's fine on my end. I don't want to be friends anymore.

Edited November 25, 2024 by brake

[yarkadin]

I got nothing against you, Brake... and I think what Spartan wrote in his last message was pretty reasonable.  We're all going through tough times in our own ways and I 100% agree that HPPD is a spectrum, so we need to respect each others' space and limits...  You got in touch with me as you did with Spartan, I was cool with talking externally, always open to conversation with reciprocal respect... but then you poured into an avalanche of topics that I really wasn't interested in and in a frequency that was frankly overwhelming to me between all of the other stuff I'm juggling.  I also stated my disagreements but that seemed to only aggravate the situation.  Maybe my fault for not drawing limits.

Anyway, I'm not going to wax poetic and make any grand statements.  I'm likewise sorry I cut off our conversation and would be open to a restart sometime if you are.

Edited November 26, 2024 by yarkadin

[Spartan]

19 hours ago, brake said:

I thought we could be friends naturally without any problems but whatever it's fine on my end. I don't want to be friends anymore.

GOOD. This is solid confirmation for me (my initial thoughts and gut feels) that this is a prime example of toxicity... and a clear example of having ZERO empathy for others whilst completely disrespecting other people's boundaries and needs whilst playing the victim. 

I can see you really love to hook people in with the "dude" thing to build a false sense of familiarity, sorry but your actions definitely do not match your words. 

Also, you did a really good job of changing the frame of the conversation (an attempt to control the narrative to shape how others perceive) being "Intent on finding a cure" when all you were actually doing was tactics of "emotional dumping" unloading all your own baggage and constant spamming. Nice way to manipulate and attempt to control.  What kind of person would send a HPPD suicide documentary to someone in an acute crisis with suicidal ideation themselves? (With mutual agreement for support) 

I find your replies to other suffers on this forum very distasteful, minimizing and passive aggressive. It actually comes across as condescending and dismissive. This kind of downplay  discourages sufferers from sharing their ideas and participating in discussions and seeking HELP. This makes me angry... 

I have been on this forum even before this forum existed when it was the HPPD Storm Loader site, and I have never once in that time,  over 3 decades (30 years) shared like this. 

I really cannot be bothered with your excessive attention seeking posts! I know they get you the attention you crave then allows you access  to abuse others. Yes, this is a form of emotional abuse. 

Possibly give hppd  Reddit a try, im sure you can find many "dudes" you can chill with there.

This is the last time you will hear from me or receive any "supply" / attention from me in any way shape or form. 

 

 

 

Edited November 26, 2024 by Spartan

[Spartan]

On 11/23/2024 at 7:37 AM, brake said:

Yeah right listen if we had any fallout please ignore my posts from now on lol

PS I would have let this slide though you started this beef and you played yourself..

[Jay1]

The irony of this thread about being kind turning into an argument 

Thread locked... Just ignore each other guys.